From a TV show I watched recently:

Man 1: … You deserve to have your wife respect you.”

Man 2: She respects me plenty.

Man 1 shrugs. “Mm.”

Man 2: Here’s the thing you gotta understand about Lynette. She grew up without her dad, and her mom was a drinker. So she had to be responsible for everyone.

Man 1: Yeah, well, that’s rough.

Man 2: Yeah. It left her with this constant fear that everything could suddenly fall apart, and that’s why she needs to control everything. Of course, she can’t. Nobody can. But she can control me, if I let her. So I do, because it makes her feel safe. And that’s my job, as her husband, to make her feel safe.